Tania Kettle

So what I've been a little Alice-In-Wonderland about recently is this:

If 20% of your relationship is:  You are amazing and fantastic and this is blow-your-mind, and the other 80% is: You treat your partner like the skanky ho who lives down the road and round the corner, talk to them like a drunken bro with an attitude problem and give bad-man sex, then how on earth do you expect to suddenly have a great relationship with said partner?

I mean, seriously, that defies all logical thought.

Yet I am seeing this over and over and over again.

And this relationship of speaking badly, negativity and trust issues, comes down to one thing:

Trust.  Or lack thereof.

Now I don't know about you, and this could be an age thing, but I've always been of the mindset: If you think you can find someone better for you than me, go be with them.

Seriously.

And you have no idea how much freedom that gives me in my relationships.

I give my best and enjoy wherever I am.

And my relationships overall, are really great.

I have heaps of fun and fantastic sex.  Mostly because I can relax.  

There's no third person shadow playing.

But back to you...having trust issues is exhausting.

Worrying about who he has been with, or might have been.

That's tiring for the Soul and chaotic for the body.

Then you start doing things that you never thought that you would do.  Things you're ashamed of.

I know for me, that if Spirit found me sneaking into someones phone to check messages, driving to see that he is where he said he is, with who he said, or sending nasty messages from a fake account, well, I'd be the one getting a Psychic slap.

Not him for being a wanker.

Me...for being so little.

Kissy hugs

T (she/her) and Spirit

xx

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