Tania Kettle

So baby doll, you and I need to have a little tutu today.

About men.  And sex.  And disrespect.

Now before you go all antsy pants on me, I'm not picking on men.  I'm just old school, so it's easier for me to talk about partnerships in the tradional Male/Female roles.

However, this also applies to Gay, Lesbian, Transgender, Queer, Questioning, Intersex, and any and all other peeps that I may have missed.

Sex, whether in a long-term relationship, short-term, situational or one-nighter, should be a whole heap of fun.

And as much as caz is not my bag, you do whatever works for you.  No judgement here.

Casual Sex is not my bug this week.

It's these stories which I'm hearing, that is taking my breath away.

And as much as I would expect these to be coming from young ones, some are, but some are most certainly not.  

So let's you and I have a chat.

1) You've been in a relationship.  Broken up.  Got back together.  

If he now wants to use a condom (where none were used previously) because, You look different, or You smell different or my personal favorite, You could be dirty and he doesn't want to catch anything...

Please, please, please, baby doll, No.

Just, No.

2) You were in a relationship, are currently NOT but wanting to get back together with him - and he wants video sex.

It is so easy to tape someone doing video sex, a trained monkey could do it.

So if your bag is being seen by others, over drinky-poo's, while the peeps watching have a laugh...go for it.

3) He refers to you as being, Too big, Too smelly or Too fat.

Really? 

He's still shagging you though.

Actually, he, not you, is what is commonly referred to in very impolite company as, A prize C*nt or That shit on the bottom of your shoe.

4) He tells you that if you loved him you would blow his friend, or co-worker or pizza delivery guy while he watches.

Sure, go ahead if you want to, but don't package it up in a pink bow tie, spray on some perfume, and call it love.

These stories are breaking my heart though...because they're real women, telling me real things, in real time.

And I'm pretty sure, you're feeling slightly uncomfortable in this moment. 

A little, Maggotty gnawing on your spine right now.

Cool.  That's what I want.

Don't confuse, Butterflies in your tummy and Desire to be,

...with the ick.

Kissy hugs

T (she/her) and Spirit

xx

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LGBTQIA – Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer and/or Questioning, Intersex (a person born with a combination of male and female biological traits) and Asexual (little or no sexual attraction to others)