Tania Kettle

So the worst question I got asked last week was, Why do bad things happen to good people?

Now, I first got asked this over 30 years ago, I didn't know then, and here we are now, and I still don't have an answer.

But it stuck in my head, and as I wrestled with this concept of Good vs Not-good, I kept coming back to choices.

Now choices I know.  

You and I can't stop bad things happening.  No-one can.  

And we all have bad things happen sooner or later.

But it's the choices that people make, which is the difference.

I mean, and you and I have talked about this, I am not the Living with Grace girl.  I do not sit back and go, Ah well, everything happens for a reason...and do a Zen smile.

No, no, I am the Spitfire-Hell-Cat-on-Speed when shite goes wrong.

I do not take things lying down.

I do not assume that whatever unplesant thing has arrived at my door is in my best interest.

I also do not invite it in to have a cup of tea.

I hiss, I spit, I claw and slash.  

Until eventually I either get a positive end result or realize that I've so badly lost, that all that is left is to quietly pick up what's left of my thrown down, stomped on and smashed up ego, and walk out the door with as much dignifty as I can muster. 

However, not everyone thinks like this.

Because I've had a lot of people say to me recently, But I don't have a choice...

Of which, my reply, 100% of the time is, You do have choices, you just don't like them.

But that phrase has haunted me this week.

Demons chased my Soul in dreamstate, and their babies walked in daylight next to me.

Chattering, bickering, screaming and fighting.

And Peace was a long, long way out of reach.

Because the choice to stay with a bad man, in a worse relationship, is not the same as a choice thrust upon you, without your consent.

Bad choice.

Worse choice.

They turned the Life Support off at 12.48.

Kissy hugs

T (she/her) and Spirit

xx

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