30 Sec's on....

There is huge Energy at the moment which is both good and bad.

Excellent, because it is a bringing up and out of old toxic beliefs or negative thoughts, words and actions that you might have been holding onto which are not needed in your life and, bad, because, well, that shite is going to hurt.

I've watched it with clients this past couple of weeks, who have spoken to me about negative sexual experiences where they have made unfathomable choices, or been hurt themselves.

And these aren't new.

We're talking experiences which are decades old.

They used to say that 3 out of 5 New Zealand women had had a negative sexual experience.

Listening this past week, I believe it is closer to 4.

Women who made a choice between them and another woman being gang raped.

A woman who had a guy pull a gun on her when they were just about to have (what had been up to that point - consensual) sex.

The girl that changed her mind when she got to the guys place.

The girls that had had their drinks spiked.

The ones that were date raped.

For me it was a, It wasn't consensual, but I didn't say, No.

Is that rape?


I didn't say No.

But it wasn't what I would have chosen.

So what I want to say to you today is:

It wasn't your fault.

You didn't do anything wrong.

Let that shite go.

Kissy hugs

T (she/her) and Spirit


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