Tania Kettle

So y'all and I need to have a little tutu this week because, well, it's been a bit heartbreaking with people.

I have had multiple conversations, and the theme has been exactly the same in all of them.

The things they wish they could undo.

And it hasn't just been one person, it's like I opened the floodgates of, Unsaid words and deeds that should not have happened Hell.

So, let's get back to basics:

A) For fucks sake talk to someone.

It doesn't have to be me, but it does have to be someone who has been round the block more than once.  Possibly 10 times.  And a minimum of a decade older than you, and preferably 5.

Because peeps who have lived a life understand.

Understand that every single thing you do has a consequence.  And not the one you think it will.  The actual consequence.

Also, older peeps know shite.

And have great stories.

B) Talk to someone before the choice, not after the action.

There are things that you cannot undo.

C) Everyone has done something they wish they hadn't.

You're lucky if you get to 25 without having learnt this.  Extremely lucky if you get to 35, and by 50 everyone has something.  

At least one.

D) In almost 30 years of professionally being me, women only regret two things:

1) Their boyfriend in high school they broke up with.

I personally don't get that one, as every ex that I have had, I never ever want to get back with.  I don't wish them harm, I just live in the world of, Glad you're happy, super pleased it's not with me.

2) Terminating a baby.

Now I'm pro-choice here, and I have met a lot of women where terminating was the best decision for them, so this is not a Don't terminate thing.

However, it is literally what a huge percentage of women in their later years, have told me they regret.

By a million miles.

But what I want to say to you today is this: 

I just want you to be happy, in whatever way happy looks to you.

Talk to someone.

Kissy hugs

T (she/her) and Spirit

xx

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