Tania Kettle

I have found myself binge watching, and falling in love with, Netflix's, 3 Wives 1 husband.  

Which is all about Fundamentalist Polygamist Mormons, living in a community at Rockland Ranch.

Now first off, a Polygamist relationship is not for me.

I am a lovely Cancerian girl, but seriously, I want what I want, when I want, how I want and in the way that I please.

Which quite obviously does not fit into this communal Polygamy thinking.

However, it doesn't change that I am totally in love with this program.

I'm fascinated.

Mostly because I just can't get my head around it.

I mean, don't get me wrong, the wives are great and the husbands are very cool people but...

Anyway, the wives bring up some really good points:

One being, that it's really great to know the kind of husband you are actually getting. Because he's married to someone else.  So you get to shop before you buy, so to speak.  You see him exactly the way he is, rather than how he would like to be.

You also see what he is like as a father.   

Those are awesome things to see.

However, I can't get my head round the other bits like:

You get the responsibility of being married 24 hours, 7 days a week, but you really only get the husband part once every 3 days (if hubby has 3 wives). And that seems to be quite definite.  There doesn't seem to be much (if any) room to move.  You can't say that you are feeling a bit frisky so you want to change days, what you get is what you've got.

I don't like that.

And I'm not sure all the wives like each other.

Well, to be fair, they all say that they have suffered from feelings of jealousy, insecurity and inferiority at one stage or another.  Some still do.  

That to me goes against the philosophy of being in a committed, loved, happy and healthy relationship.

Because in any emotional, intimate, physical, Spiritual and financial relationship you should feel loved, secure and wanted.

Can you do that every third day?

But back to the good things:

Lots of children.  A real community.  And the husbands do treat their wives with respect.  These are things which are powerful and empowering.

So I was sorry to see at the end, that Polygamy had been outlawed for them.  

And as much as this lifestyle is not for me, I didn't like to hear that they were now living an illegal life because they're different to me.  Because that's what we're really talking about here:

You are not like me. 

Anyway, at the end there were lots of pro's and con's about why it is outlawed. Con's from the Non-Poly Mormons who say that Poly relationships have domestic violence and sexual abuse issues.    

Pro's from the Poly Mormons who think that their life is fantastic.

Obviously.

But it was one of the wives who got to the very bottom, grass roots of the issue, with this one question:

Why do you care if I want to share my husband?

Wishing you much love and abundance and a truly courageous heart.

T and Spirit

xx