Tania Kettle

Today I want to talk about living your truth

People always talk to me about what they perceive is going on in their life, however, once we get down to brass tacks we often find that we are talking about something completely different. This happened today.  I was speaking with a client who was in conflict and noticeably upset, however during our phone call it went from her conflict and what was going on in her life to this is your fault……oh no, no, no, no, no….that. does. not. happen.  The call had turned into a Santa sack (Santa sack: previous conflict, hurt and pain that you carry round with you on a daily basis from your past (often for years) that instead of dealing with, letting go and getting on with it you lug around and when an opportunity arises you try and give to someone else in the form of aggression, abuse and put downs.)  How did I know when the energy changed?  The conversation went from “I want…” to “You don’t…”  The only way to deal with a Santa sack is to stop immediately what you are doing ie: hang up or leave the room because conflict will esculate rapidly and in such a way that one or both of you will get hurt either by words and/or actions. 

We have all had something from our past, that to be perfectly honest, sucks.  But everyone does. Get on and get over it.  You do not, ever, have to have conflict in your life.  Remember?  Other peoples external words and actions do not have to change your internal balance.  Whether you are at peace or not is your choice - put kindness first, then refuse to accept anyone else’s Santa sack - only be responsible for who you are and the actions you make but remember taking responsiblity means for better or worse hunny bunnies!

Pasta for the soul

4 Large (you know the really big) mushrooms chopped small

1 pot of thickened cream

3 cloves of (fresh) garlic (don’t you dare use the stuff from the jar!)

4 Bay leaves (fresh) and a handful of fresh rosemary (the stalky kind)

Mix together in a saucepan to cook gently but do not boil

Boil fresh pasta - drain, mix with sauce and voila dinner - add a summer salad with it (you know the one with flowers), fresh ciabatta bread and (fresh) butter

lol Feeds the body and nourishes the soul - pretty good for the romance side of things too lol

Quote of the Day from he who cannot be name….Well, it’s like this.  Women are attracted to me but sometimes they are shy, they don’t know how to step forward and tell me, so….(a little shrug here)…..I do it for them.   lolollol  I freaking love men. 

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What a wickedly awesome weekend!  I loooooooooove riding a scooter lol however, me thinks that instructor is less keen on me riding one lol  We (yes, I roped a girlfriend into coming with me) rocked up nice and early, well, on time, and instructor was very pleasant.  Signed some forms - the standard  “I promise I won’t sue if I fall off and break my neck” ones and Instructor kitted us up with helmets.  You know for someone quite smart it can be quite difficult to put a helmut on right - put straps through both then back through one….why I have no idea when there is just a button you are supposed to click in - however, helmut put on.  Successfully.  After a minute.  Or two.   Then we proceeded to take bike from standing (off position) to back on stand (on position).  Excellent.  How hard can this be?  Apparently quite hard.  It sounded simple when he was explaining it but when faced with reality I got a mind blank.  Complete mind blank.  So while girlfriend was pushing and pulling and going from off to on and back again position I had to admit that maybe I hadn’t been listening properly.  I had but I thought it would sound better than I just can’t do it.  lol  No, not off to the best start but eventually got there with Instructors insightful help……listen carefully as I am not going to repeat myself…….ok, right. got it…..sort of…  Then we learnt how to start, stop and ride.  Huge amount of fun and won some brownie points for being able to stay upright.  Excellent.  My girlfriend then challenged him by managing to pull back and accelerate at the same time which I now know is not good.  Bike then goes on one wheel, straight up and in between the clouds of gas enveloping them both you could hear Instructor yelling words Key!  Key! Turn the (got a bit muffled here) key off!  Key eventually turned off.   Once everyone had calmed down we then moved onto turning left - walk in the park - and then right.  Big mistake!  Think of blind folded spastic and we are in the same ball park - anyway, stuck my tongue to the side, got on with it and achieved with effort!  Excellent.  Instructor then must of thought I was particularly clever and got me weaving between cones lol well, the weaving part was right - I was laughing so hard I couldn’t finish it.  Three times we tried and I think I succeeded - the bike didn’t fall on me and I did manage to do all the cones although admitedly not all at once lol  We had the best fun and it was excellent value for $80.  However, instructor did say that I hadn’t quite reached riding on the road level and that I needed to go back as there was a lot more that he felt he could teach me…….lolollolollol  Really? I thought I had done extremely well……

Rock on Angels and don’t forget to beep when you see me on my scooter

ps: the young one rowed, on the actual water, personally, 50 km’s on Saturday.  Freaking excellent!

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Ok, we have another one for the books in the realm of service par excellence!

Was getting my hair cut today and went to pay but the computer had jammed, or decided not to work, or froze or whatever word accurately describes it not wanting to play nicely.  Two of us were waiting to pay and the girl behind the counter said That’s ok, just pay next time :)  I’m sorry did I hear her correctly?  Did someone actually say No problemo, don’t let us keep you waiting, take your products and just. pay. next. time?  No, can I take your creditcard number? no, can you pay tomorrow or pop back in half an hour? 

While I was there, in shock, computer did come back on but that doesn’t change anything.  They thought the computer wasn’t AND they have a policy that if they give you a completely new hair style and you don’t like it they will refund your money!

I’m sorry just too good an opportunity to pass up - this salon rocks!

Exsalonce 09 5757582 and for the coolest hairdresser ever ask for i - no, not kidding, she’s Asian and I guarantee I haven’t spelt it right but you know, that’s her name.

May you have an awesome weekend filled with love, laughter, soul connections and soul contentment!

Rock on Angels

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I am missing this sunny weather here in Auckland and it didn’t help that while doing my radio show in Nelson this morning Kent informed me the weather there was absolutely gorgeous!  Excellent.  Would pass on Kents joke of the day but can only remember….What did Arnold Schwarzenegger say when…. lol

Today I want to talk a little about being normal

Women talk to me alot about relationships and the big word is what’s normal?  communication, bedroom, emotional you get the gist….pretty much, do men have a set formula for normal and what the hell is it?

lol Ok, kind of yes, they do. 

Men aren’t the best communicators - you want to communicate your deepest, darkest fears and dreams periodically then a healthy partner listens and communicates back - if however, you are wanting this on a daily let us look internally together and pray to the Goddess basis you may be pushing your luck.  Unfair but true.  Men just communicate differently.  By actions not words.  Bless their little hearts for that and love them as you find them.

In the bedroom.  Guys if you really knew exactly what we said, how we said it, and in exactly how much detail you would be horrified.  Seriously.  Adventurous good.  Exciting good.  However, if your man asks for something a little more spicy and you say no, and he still does this shit then that’s not ok, or healthy or normal.  I personally can’t stand that word normal but needs must.  Men, real men, respect your boundaries, hear the word no and accept it…..or dump your ass and find someone who will.  Assume the former is true.

Men are divinely beautiful creatures and I wouldn’t be without them for the world however if you are confused about what is ok or “normal” then just remember this one magic phrase…..Is this my definition of love?

Quote of the Day from Andy Garcia: Everything I do in my life is very instinctual and in the moment.  If I’m attracted to something, that’s it.  If I have reservations, those don’t change til they’re resolved.  My first impression is how I go.

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I have had a lot of women talk to me recently about over-burdenment so let us talk a little more about this…..

Over-burdenment happens when you no longer know how to say no.  Partly because of your childhood and the belief systems there but mostly because society says nice girls don’t.  Seriously.  When was the last time you said no - politely, nastily or anyway? That’s right, you can’t remember when. 

Well, let me ask you this, when was the last time you had a me day?  And shock horror when was the last time that you lay in bed, reading the latest book, magazine or newspaper while sipping coffee and eating a leisurely breakfast (say an almond crossiant) and didn’t get out of bed until lunch?  lolollol You said it honey that just doesn’t happen.  Well, why not?  You are not raising a family of morons!  They can a) dress themselves b) organise themselves c) tidy up after themselves and d) make you breakfast, lunch and/or dinner without having a meltdown.  You, honey, are being taken advantage of and I think we should stop this cycle of woman abuse and get back to basics.  Women are AMAZING creatures - full of laughter, nurturing, caring, multi-tasking, home-makers, career makers and just awesome people.  You deserve to have someone treat you with respect, kindness, romance and generally thank you for being in my life cause you make it easy and good and fine attitude and you can start right now, today, with your family.  You did not sign up for Super-person slave and person non grata, you signed up for being a unique and fine individual who through your own choice decides to love, nuture, care and respect these people who share your DNA. 

I think it’s time you went on strike.

Well, that’s just my theory - do what you wish

Quote of the Day from my (now good friend) Lauren Bacall:  You know how to whistle, don’t you, Steve? You just put your lips together and blow.

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I have some exciting news for you today - you are now able to put your calls to me on your Telecom Account again.  I have received numerous emails and phone calls recently wanting to know when I was going to re-instate my 0900 number (0900 5 7827) and I am now happy to say that it is, as I am writing this, live.  My hours on the 0900 are 7am to 8pm Monday to Friday while creditcard readings (0800 4 5 7827) stay as normal - ie: whenever you want, including weekends.  You will never ever get anyone else apart from me on 0900 5 7827.   Always me.  Thank you all for letting me know what you wanted

Today I want to have a quick chat to you about Aspartame - the most common articifial sweetner.  I have seen a lot of ads in women’s magazines recently about how Aspartame is excellent - helps weight loss, is good for you and generally is the bees knees.  All good.  However, I am totally against it because it is not natural and has yucky stuff in it.  It is not the same as natural Aspartame and anything that has yucky stuff is NOT good for you.  Anyway, saw another ad in this weeks Woman’s Day, page 66 and just couldn’t keep quiet about it any longer.  At the bottom of this full page ad about how wonderful Aspartame is in very, very small letters we have *Phenylketonurics, aspartame contains phenylalanine.   What might phenylalanine be?  Good question 99!

It is an essential amino acid and takes part in the synthesis of tissue protein and in it’s natural form can be found in products like fish, poultry, beef, pork, milk, yoghurt, eggs, cheese, soy products, a few nuts and seeds and bananas.  It is something that we need for our bodies and in its natural state the toxic bit of phenylalanine gets broken down and absorbed, then detoxicated in the liver.  So far all good, however, the man-made phenylalanine is not the same.  And you know this.  A can of diet coke does not, nor ever will, have the same, nutritional benefits as a banana.  You’re not stupid you know this.

Side effects of Aspartame (man-made one) is:

- can be toxic and cause nerve damage

- can cause nausea, heartburn and headaches

- is a neuro toxin and excites the neurons in the brain to the point of celluar death

- causes emotional and behavioural disorders

- can cause irreverisble brain damage and death when used in high quantities or while pregnant

- can cause hyper tension and migraines

Last but not least…..how much Aspartame are you having on a daily basis?  It’s in a lot of products not just diet coke.   Don’t be stupid.

Quote of the day by lauren Bacall: Looking in the mirror is not a study on human life

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What an awesome weekend!  Not quite as planned or even expected, however - a good time had by all!

First things first - we did not win, nor place at rowing which is a shame and I should be able to give you exact details at to why not but unfortunately after five hours of sitting patiently in the sun (with good company though!) I decided to go and have lunch and managed to miss both races! 

This actually brings me to my topic of conversation today - our service industry and the “put up and shut up” attitude that we have managed to cultivate.  Let me explain…..We had to get to rowing at sparrows yawn on Saturday morning so after another 4.30 am start to get there by 6.45am I needed a coffee.  Well, actually what was a vague coffee would be nice thought was compounded by everyone walking past me with freshly brewed coffee.  So, being the smart cookie that I am I realised that if there was a place open selling coffee at the local shops then there was a good chance that there would also be an almond crossiant on offer too so off I went hoping that the shops weren’t as far back as I remembered.  Anyway, they weren’t but no coffee place to be seen so I continued walking and voila one french bakery (with seats and complimentary herald), freshly brewed coffee, fresh crossiants and one authentic french man.  A good start.  While I was spending a very pleasant few minutes I looked over and spied a beauty shop next door.  This was a place I would need to visit either Saturday or Sunday as my nail polish had managed to get scratched, come off and generally looked skanky.  However, it was 7.45 in the morning.  Saturday morning.  So, I waited, thinking about this small dilemna and how success was so close yet so far away and then I see a lady vacumming inside.  Well, with my coffee finished, almond crossiant definitely finished and me wishfully eyeing up another one I decided instead to go and ask whether she would be interested in helping me out.  lol Well, it worked out that she would!  She had had a demonstration done last night so had come in early to give the place a freshen up.  Well, we got talking and she did not only the nails but also a bit of miscellaneous tidy up work - as you do!  Fabulous end result - very pleased with myself and the service was amazing!  Great lady and if you are ever in Milford please go see June www.nefertiti.co.nz

However, let us talk about lunch.  Again the company was fabulous (lucky me!) and the outlook was lovely - down at pine harbour, beautiful sunny day and should have been all good.  We had a non-alcoholic drink each and ordered lunch.  I ordered and paid, my friend ordered and paid.  Then we went and sat outside.  Had a catch up and was just chilling out and enjoying the being.  My friends lunch comes out.  And we wait.  And we wait.  And we wait.  We end up getting a waitress and asking where my lunch is (I’m a cancer girl and I don’t take well to food issues) waitress doesn’t know.  In fact, waitress has to re-ask what I might have ordered.  This was her first day so I was rather polite to her.  And then we waited again.  And waited.  Then manager comes out.  What might I have ordered?  Manager goes to check.  Manager comes back out Ah yes, we have two new chefs and it hasn’t quite been done.  Will be about 4 minutes.  But sorry.  Really sorry,  really, really sorry.  Four minutes later it comes out - now bear in mind that both of us had hot lunches.  Mine was now hot, friends was cold.  Anyway, we ate and decided to have another drink before we went our separate ways.  Manager was at bar and I said So are these drinks on the house? (again both non-alcoholic and the cost for both was $4).  She looked at me and said Oh no.  You have to pay for them.  I was like hang on….you made a mistake with lunch, you admitted you made a mistake…..and she went yes, but I don’t know how you ordered…..  lolollol Nice one Einstein!  It might have worked if it had been really busy there or the person serving hadn’t been her daughter!  lolollolollol  A very bad service experience at the Jolly Roger, Pine Harbour - shame on you!

We are all in the service industry in one way or another but we all have choices as to how we react to others.  Some people have an awesome attitude like June and deserve success and repeat business and others like the Jolly Roger need work.  Lots of it.  

Choose wisely when spending hunny bunnies because this is your hard earned money and you need to respect it which means do not reward bad service! 

Quote of the Day by Lauren Bacall:  You can’t start worrying about what’s going to happen.  You get spastic enough worrying about what’s happening now.  lol

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Well, the young one is, if not fighting fit for a bull, then he’s 95% there!  Very happy and we (me, God and Coach) are expecting good results tomorrow

And for those of you who have a sense of humour - am booked in for scooter training next Sunday (??!) 8 am - that’s actually not the funny part - that would be the next course a couple of weeks later to do my motorcycle thingy BUT I just found out I need to sit my written license again lolollol

Yes! That same written license that the young one sat six months ago and I was banned from giving him the answers because they were all wrong!  that’s not good…..the young one thinks it’s hilarious - I, on the other hand, am less than impressed - there is no way I can talk myself out of this……lol well, well, well…..the words glass and throw come to mind…..

Anyway, guys and girls have an awesome weekend and may your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual soul be in complete harmony and total balance

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You are never going to convince me that there is not a parallel universe!  Seriously, I may have had a teensy, weensy sleep in this morning and within 15 minutes had managed to run two hours behind!! How can this possibly be - mathematically it doesn’t work, scientifically it doesn’t work therefore has to be parallel universe.  Well, I hope the me in the other world is having a cruisy, laid back time abundant day lol

And coach is not happy with me.  Seriously, not happy and for once I have been on my best behaviour and still got into trouble.  Why?  The young one has a winter cold.  That’s right….sniffles, cough, deep chesty muscus-ey cough and we have our first competition this Saturday.  Crap.  If coach could actually yell down the phone For Gods sake how hard is it to keep him well!  Keep focused!! I think he would.  In fact, without me sounding a little paranoid I can actually hear his energy yelling at me from my house lol

So, all get well magic has come out and we are racing against the clock.  Fabulous.  However, I am always up for a challenge and credit where credit is due I am the best person for this job Still, time to man up and get things back on track.

Off to brew potions and stir cauldrons lol

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Thank you for all those kind people who have emailed me (and in one particular case drawn) step by step directions for parallel parking - much appreciated. 

Today though I want to talk with you about allowing yourself to be happy.  This last year has been challenging for a lot of people and because of this I have noticed that people have been more careful about being happy as if suddenly they may become less happy, or people will think they are bragging.  Seriously.  We are all ultimately responsible for who we are and more importantly, how happy we are and as you know, it never has anything to do with how much money you have.  Happiness is all about soul connections, being with people who you love (and love you back), laughter and stepping out of your comfort zone to do fabulous stuff. 

But I digress…..your challenge for the rest of this week is to refuse to accept anybody else’s negativity into your life, accept where you are right now, accept that you are happy but more importantly accept that IT IS OK!  I want you to truly look at your life and when you do that I believe that a lot of you are going to go I’m pretty ok with where I’m standing well, time to celebrate it babies.  Do not let others bombard you with negativity through choices not of your making - you didn’t make the choice?  don’t take the responsibility and if you think that Mr or Mrs Guilt is going to come knocking at your door with packed bags ready to come live with you for a while think again….remember this…..whether you are happy or not is a daily choice, made from direct choices you make today and seeds you have sown yesterday

Quote of the Day by Neil Gaiman:  Sometimes you wake up.  Sometimes the fall kills you.  And sometimes when you fall, you fly.

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