Tania Kettle

I must have set my body clock wrong last night because 4.30am I am wide awake and bushy tailed.  Excellent.  However, not one to miss an opportunity I found the perfect time of the day to have a green tea, chocolate and finish this most excellent book I am reading.  An amazing start to the day I do have to say!

Speaking with some of my clients recently I know that weekends are really hard for some of you single people.  You have not quite got your social life organised since splitting with your partner and can generally just feel a bit humpy about things.  Well, two things you need to keep focused on:

1) You are not with your ex because it didn’t work.  Highly likely it won’t work again either.

2) There are fabulous new people waiting to meet you.

That’s it!

Have an amazing weekend - if you find yourself single - take one small step to invite a new person (or persons) into your life and remember this one rule Singledom is not a life sentence!

May your emotional, physical, spiritual and intimate soul be in complete balance and total harmony

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I found my scary time of the week yesterday.  Let me explain……we all have a particular time of the day and/or a day that we don’t like.  For some of my clients who are single it is a Friday night because they are alone with the weekend stretching out in front of them or a Sunday because everywhere you look there are couples, for other people it is 3am in the morning and for others, Tuesdays.  Go figure!  For me I found it yesterday at 4.30pm.  Why?  Because Wednesday 4.30pm is when I transfer the young one from one lot of rowing training - his 8k run - to the gym for ab training and it is exactly 12 hours before we need to get up again to re-start our rowing training lolollol I know, it’s insane!  I didn’t actually realise it until the young one mentioned it yesterday.  At 4.30.  Then kept mentioning it just to make sure I got it.  At 6pm last night he said Do you know that it is 10 and a half hours before we get up again?  Not a pleasant thought when we still have homework, dinner, clients booked etc, etc and then at 8pm as we were eating dinner Do you know that we can just get 8 and a half hours sleep if we go to bed right now, this minute?   Shut up, shut up, shut up!  lolollol

Funny thing is - getting up at 4.30am is a breeze, I don’t need 8 hours sleep - I’m always awake about 5.30, 6am, it also doesn’t seem to negatively affect the young one, it doesn’t change the way we eat, what we accomplish or me going to the gym - the only odd thing is it is dark.  As you would expect lol 

Having only 12 hours between rowing activities is still scary when I write about it but in reality it doesn’t affect our life at all.  With forethought and forward planning Wednesdays are a walk in the park.  

If you are like me and have had a scary moment, stop, breathe and re-balance then use forethought and foreplanning to get you through your particular scary place but don’t put limitations on yourself because when you look at them in the cold light of day, they may not actually limit you at all.

Off to slay dragons babes and babettes

ps: For those of you having difficulty getting in touch with me immediately via phone - please text me to organise a phone reading time.  0274817144.

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I want to start today off with a compliment that I received…..I was doing my normal organic shop and when I went to pay, the cashier looked at my cheque said Can you wait a minute please and then disappeared out the back of the shop……30 seconds later this lovely lady came out and said You’re the lady behind the cheque.  When you last came in I missed you.  I just want to say “thank you” for spending your money with us.  We appreciate your business.  Seriously.  What a kick ass compliment in my day!  So….you want great service?  Huckleberry’s is the place to go or visit their website www.huckleberryfarms.co.nz

Talking about supermarkets another good thing happened yesterday.  Pak n Save - or my one at least, has now employed walkers.  That’s right!  People who help you find things on the shelf.  I kidd you not.  They do nothing apart from help you shop and actually have a little sticker that says….I’m here to help you, if you can’t find something, ask me! 

In these aggressive energy times it is an absolute joy to see people go out of their way to be easy, pleasant and joyful.

Food for thought

Gotta go - things to do, people to talk to, lives to change

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Hey guys and girls, great to see you again! 

Rowing is going fabulously and we are coping really well with the exercising (I know I am using the royal “we” here but the young ones not complaining too much!) and credit where credit is due I am doing one hour a day aqua jogging and not complaining either lol

I want to share a little story with you though.  Last Wednesday I sent some text messages out - you know the ones, catch up, hope your well etc, etc……let me share with you the replies I got back……1) I wish I was dead  2) I’m depressed  3) I just want to curl up in a ball and not move  4) I’m fine, it’s everyone else who screws me over  5) Did you mean to send this to me?   6) I’m so broke  7) My life sucks….  and the replies went on and on and on and on so I decided to take some time out and meditate on this.  And I did.  So, let me share my thoughts with you….

1) how you think makes a difference

2) if you think like a defeatist - go sign up for the dole right now cause you have already decided your future

3) I am not going to step into your negativity, depression or my life sucks and always will attitude.  I will not waste my time and energy with someone, or for that matter, anyone who cares so little that they can’t be arsed helping themselves.

I also asked myself whether I should buy into this recession lark and decided No because this time is an opportunity to live a more authentic life.  I have always said that money does not dictate your physical happiness, families happiness and soul happiness, in fact, if I could be so blunt it only hinders it.  Sure, money is needed to pay the bills but seriously a $10,000 plasma tv is not an actual bill it is a donkey round your neck. 

I also asked myself whether I should down play the young ones and myself relationship and say we have issues to make you feel better and again I said No.  Why?  Because we have worked hard for our relationship - ask the young one lolollol - but seriously all families require love, time, attention, listening skills and particularly shutting up skills when the occasion arises.  If you have family issues then accept that you may have limitations but then work with what you do have and build on that.  Seriously.

The most important thing that I want you to understand though is that I truly want you all to succeed.  Not succeed as long as it is less than me, not with any form of ties, commitment or anything else I just want you to succeed.  I want you to wake up every day and be grateful that you are living your exact life.  With the person who makes you happiest.  With the family that you desire and no money worries.  I also want you to understand that I am not prepared to make myself smaller to make you feel better.  That’s not going to happen.  At any time in my life where I have seen someone (and there have been lots and lots of someones) who had more than I had either financially or emotionally I sat down and tweaked my goal plan so that I too could have what they had.   

Let me leave all you fabulous women with the quote of the day that accurately describes me, my life and how I live it and should also be your attitude……

Be the kind of woman that when your feet hit the floor each morning the devil says “Oh crap, she’s up!” 

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Back to relationships again sweeties

A common theme I have heard this year is when a man comes full on into your life - dating you, talking about long term commitment, going overseas, living together etc, etc and all this within a month if not a week of actually meeting you then as soon as you have sex……wham, bam you never hear from him again.  I have had nine clients speak to me about this happening to them this year and if I know about it then seriously, it will have happened to a shitload more women.  So, since this is the season for lurrrrrrvee let us re-look at a few guidelines….

First things first - don’t have sex with a man in the first week.  Duh!  You haven’t had time to get to know him nor have you seen him in a social environement ie friends and family and you certainly haven’t seen him in a bad mood!  Anyone can be nice for a week! 

Secondly, fabulous relationships are built on trust, commitment and emotional investments.  A week is not long enough for a man to emotionally invest in you - they are not like us chicky babes who can fall in love in the amount of time it takes to lock eyes with them.

Thirdly, good, happy, healthy relationships do not start with conflict, negativity or a tangled mess of debts or other people.  It just doesn’t work like that.  Happy, healthy relationships work from a basis of open-ness, connected-ness and fabulous-ness. 

It’s pretty easy hunny bunnies - don’t expect a relationship to grow into a happy, healthy, committed and soul contended relationship if it has a foundation of lies, deceit, uncontrollable debt or another person involved….

Quote of the day from he who cannot be named: Today is your day, good activities and a good attitude will result in great results.  Don’t hold back, give it everything you’ve got.  Good luck!

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Well, we got the first weeks schedule for rowing last night and to give the young one credit where it is due he didn’t complain although he did go a little pale lol

Monday arvo - 8 k run

Tuesday arvo - rowing

Wednesday arvo - 8 k run

Thursday morning - 5.30am rowing (4.30am get up)

Friday - day off

Saturday - rowing from 7am to 2pm

Sunday off but to get the young one’s upper body muscles in peak condition another four sessions (hours) at the gym per week on top of.  And this is just this week lol I have a sneaky feeling that they are only giving us one week at a time because they don’t want to scare us but am anticipating another two possibly three extra morning starts.  I seriously hope I am wrong though lol

Anyway, life is good.  My gym efforts have been very good - 40 mins swimming on Saturday and weights plus 40 minutes swimming on Sunday and one hour of walking in water today (in not on - don’t be smart!).

Wishing you all well - and for those who are dipping their toe in the exercise pool and want some guidelines - you should be able to run 1 k in 5 minutes.  lolollol

Quote of the day from coach:  Based upon the belief  that all the hard-work of our coaches and crews over the coming season will result in success and mean that the majority of our rowing squad will qualify to compete at Maadi a group booking has been made as follows……..  (Maadi Cup Regatta - Monday 22nd to Sat 27th March 2010 in Twizel)  lolollol Excellent!

Welcome to Monday baby :)

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It never fails to amaze me that just when I am ready to throw my toys out of my cot because I don’t believe I am getting my own way I find myself in exactly the right place with exactly the right person.  Seriously, it freaks me out some days lol

Yesterday I tried my hardest to get to the gym and my free trainer at the gym - everything and I mean, everything conspired for me not to get there grrrrrrrrrrrr so not holding my breath I rang again for today and low and behold got the sweetest, nicest and human-est trainer that is possible.  Not only did she look as if she was listening (which I find particularly helpful) but she was actually listening (even better!).  Then I find out she is a rower.  And been to Twizel.  And studying for a Bachelor of Health degree co-joined with Nutrition specialising in…..wait for it…..young athletes lolollol  I kidd you not - down to their own particular sport (ie tennis, rugby, rowing etc as it is all different nutrition wise) their age, their height, their weight, the time they need to eat, what they need to eat - apparently carbs and protein at different times of the day not just to rebuild today but to have enough energy to train early the next morning (??!) - body weight vs calories expended for peak physical conditioning.  The interesting thing is that when I had been choosing schools for the young one it had come down to her old school and the current one and I had hummed and hawed for weeks before commiting as we either had to live in one area or another.  However, when we were talking today it worked out that I had made the absolute best choice for rowing.   Seriously, sometimes I think that God is taking the mock - he could of given me a direct confirmation at the time!   But then if that wasn’t enough I was at the post office and I get a tap on the shoulder from someone who I had briefly met but before we could get a friendship up we went in separate directions - I’m having coffee with her and what is she doing now?  and yip, you guessed it……a degree in Nutrition. 

lolollol

You are always in the right place for right now do not throw your toys out of your cot lol

May your physical body and intimate soul be in complete harmony and total balance this weekend and no slapperish booty calls - yes, you know I mean you lolollol

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Lots of people ask me how to have a healthy relationship and that’s great - I love working with relationships and in particular relationship issues and how to get the best out of any relationship.  However, I often find as I talk with clients that the most common theme that comes up is trust.  Or lack of.  And the amount of times a woman (surprisingly not men) talk about they just went through their partners stuff ie: phone, texts, email, confidential paperwork is absolutely astounding.  Trust is a two way bridge and if you are having doubts about your partner then you either need to talk about it or you need to take a step back and get back to basics ie: move the relationship back to a level that you feel comfortable in.   Not move things forward rapidly ie: moving in together. 

And practice kindness.  I think kindness is one of the most under-rated actions that we can participate in.  Everytime we open our mouth we have the option of either saying something nice and positive or something negative.  Every, single, time baby!  You know this because you are an intelligent individual.  So, let us start right now…..with your partner tonight be as kind as you possibly can be and see the results flowing abundantly back to you

Be good and cool and fine 

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Oh no…..the young seems to have inherited one of my genes - and not one of the good ones!!

That’s right!  The don’t stress, it’ll be all right on the night gene - unfortunately I can now see it’s downfall as the young one is in full on panic mode at the moment.  Why?  Because rowing starts this weekend and when he joined the gym about three months ago he went for about three weeks and then decided to focus on catching up with his chicky babes, organising his social calendar, catching up on sleep and eating.  Good news though is by my reckoning he should be all caught up now until he is 103!  lol

Anyway, I digress the young one is absolutely frantic because the majority of the rowing team are rugby players - yip - and they are full on in peak condition as I am writing this lolollol  I am finding it very difficult to not say I told you so but for those of you who went through our first rowing season with us last year you understand why I’m not gloating.  My memory may have faded a bit but there is enough left re rowing and the absolute pain that went with it that has made me at least make an effort to increase my gym time.  Or at least go.  And those of you raise your hand who remember that fabulous phrase made to me by a lady at the gym (at 5.30am in the freaking morning!) whose daughter also rowed who explained to me that it was my responsibility to be as pretty as I could be because the rowers make an effort to row.  Frankly, what a crock of shite.  If I am getting up at 5am in the morning - you better not just be rowing you better be freaking winning!  Although on the positives - I learnt how to be in two places at once.  How to sleep whenever and wherever I got time.  I learnt that athletes eat a shit load more than the normal person and what you put into your mouth does make a difference.  I learnt how to prepare a healthy meal in less than 10 minutes with no more than five dishes and I learnt that I was far more capable than what I originally thought.  And I learnt how to dress attractively, quickly.  Very, very quickly.   We’re playing for big stakes this year though as the young one wants to go to Twizel early next year which means that his team needs to be a contender (if not the winner) in the North Island Champs. 

Watch this space!

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You guys are going to get a little growl today because you have slipped back into the oh no, it’s almost xmas so I may as well just stay in this partnership - it’s really not that bad…

Well, well, well eh?  Not that bad.  Excellent.  You are planning on spending the next four months and 7 days with someone because you don’t want to spend xmas and New Years by yourself.  Possibly.  You are an intelligent individual and are acting like someone whose brain cells do not go into triple figures.  If you do not wake up and happily snuggle in for an extra five minutes with your partner, if you do not want to speak to them (at least) a couple of times during the day because you just want to check in and say hi, if you do not want to hang out with them then you are not with the right partner.  And you are stopping yourself from meeting the right partner because you are making yourself unavailable.  This is not a recipe for success.  In fact, it is the recipe for the complete opposite.  I understand that taking the risk of meeting someone new is scary, in fact I totally understand how it is easy to accept less than what you deserve but thank God those days pass.  And they do.  And it’s better than being with someone who is quite obviously not your soulmate and never will be. 

Fight the good fight peoples

Story of the day from my Grandfather (now dead but lived to 100 and a half years old)….Did I ever tell you how I met your Nana?  I caught the train to Auckland on New Years Eve to meet Dave, who never turned up, but as I was standing there wondering what I was going to do I met one of my other mates, Tiny, who said to me “what are you doing?’  I said “I was supposed to meet Dave but he’s not here.  So nothing.”  Tiny said - “I’m going to meet my girlfriend and she’s with a friend, come with me”.    That friend became my Nana.  She had three children, four Grand-daughters and became Great Grand Nana to my son at the ripe age of 89 years old.  A good cook who left me with fabulous memories and ended up being married to my Pops for 60 years.  No mean feat in itself lol

Expect more for yourself!

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